Be YOU!

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

We all need to learn to be ourselves again. This is one of the most essential aspects of victoriously navigating through this life. In my previous articles, we have already discussed that rebooting ourselves from the discomfort caused by this world requires us to work hard on ourselves.

Qualities such as being arrogant, rude, dishonest, and selfish have no place in your personality. When we proudly walk around with these unpleasant attitudes, we are inviting all sorts of negativity into our lives. The result of that is only more pain and disappointment. That is why I encouraged you in the very first article to get to know yourself.

This will better equip you to ReBoot You, by learning more about your weaknesses.

So what exactly does it mean to be yourself? It requires that you separate yourself from all the labels the world around us has put on us. There is no reason for us to allow the world around us to press us into something that we are not. Just think about how amazing it would be to not have to pretend to be something you are not. This is all within reason of course. We would never want to take certain liberties that may have far-reaching effects on our personal or professional lives. That means that you might want to hold off on anything extreme, like dying your hair purple and green, until you find an employer that is willing to accommodate such a choice.

Here are some reasons why you need to start being true to yourself:

1. You will never be able to please everyone. If you constantly allow the people around you to determine who you are, you will constantly have to change what you stand for to try and make everyone happy. The only problem with this is that you will be dealing with so many conflicting demands that you will eventually end up disappointing someone. Additionally, putting yourself under this kind of pressure will leave you feeling dissatisfied in the end.
2. The society around us doesn’t know what it wants. The movies portray women as both the submissive homemaker and the strong-headed, both as the ideal woman. The society also demands that men be sensitive to the needs of the opposite sex and the dangerous bad boy as well. Which will you be if you are simply allowing those around you to determine who you are? Whatever you decide to be, just remember that it is quite exhausting to be putting on this kind of show every day when you are not that person.
3. You will end up making life-changing decisions based on the thoughts of the people around you, who will not suffer the consequences of these choices but you will. For example: If you decide to have a child, simply because your family thinks it’s time, you will be the one to have to take care of that child! If you decide to pursue a career because your friends think you would do well in it, you will have to live with the burden of a career that you hate, forever.

When you are comfortable with who you are, you will be truly happy. How can you love yourself when you are constantly pretending to be something that you are not?

When all is said and done, you need to take control of your life if you want to see real improvements! You cannot expect different results if you are not bold enough to make drastic changes and the time for those changes is NOW!